Life and Lessons Learned | Chaser of Light

There are few things that I love more than the idea of a fresh start!  There is an excitement in believing that a better you, a better life, a better world are obtainable, starting today.  I do, I love it as much as I love cold sheets on a hot day and a good book at the beach.

I have decided this year to be a chaser of light.  As a photographer most of my work days are spent finding the light.  This year I am going to incorporate this hunt in all aspects of my life.  I will look for the light everywhere I go.  I will search for the good in everyone and everything.  If I stumble across a situation where there is seemingly no light, then I will be the light.  I will mimic the sun and I will shine bright!

This isn’t like the New Year’s resolution where I vowed to quit smoking and was rummaging through the trash for my pack of cigarettes by noon on January 1st.  And it certainly isn’t like last year where I vowed to be better at not losing everything, because that resulted in two lost ATM cards in less than 365 days.  I tell you, this year is different!

Poet and philosopher, Henry David Thoreu said, “It’s not what you look at that matters, it’s what you see.”  I will be positive and see the glory that surrounds me!  This year will be different.  Swearsies!



Artwork by, Trestled



Life and Lessons Learned | Tie it to a Balloon

Life and Lessons Learned

#1 Tie it to a Balloon

My New Year’s resolution has been the same for the past nine years.  I want to be the woman that my daughters will grow to become.  Talk about a tall order!  It’s usually about this time of year that I start logging all the ways that I have seemingly failed myself and them.  Excuse me while I grab the tissues and wine for my pity party.

An old friend, Caroline, would offer the great and whimsical advice, “Tie it to a balloon and let it go.”  These metaphorical words would come anytime you were faced with a situation that was out of your control.  A situation much like living in the regret of failing your best intentions.  This year I am going to try to not regret, rather learn from all of my missteps and mistakes.  It is equally important for my little ladies to see not only how I behave as I rise, but also how I respond when I fall.

I remember when I began photography, I would see an image and photograph it.  Disappointingly, more times than not, the final image did not reflect the picture that I had seen in my head when I first felt inspired to snap the shutter.  It took time, knowledge, and practice to close the gap between what I saw in my head and what I was able to produce in print.  Similarly, every year I get a littler closer to this woman that I aspire to be, this imagined woman in my mind.  I doubt that I will ever fully see this picture of perfection looking back at me in the mirror.  Until I do, I will continue to adorn myself with hope for tomorrow and forgiveness for yesterday.

If I teach my daughters to wear nothing as well as they wear hope and forgiveness, then I have done ok.

Lesson #1 is to live, learn, and let go.

Tie it to a Ballon

“Release” by Justine Beckett

Life and Lessons Learned | Find Your People

Life and Lessons Learned

Lesson #2 Find Your People

Our daughter, Annie, is three years old.  She is our youngest of four children.  I’m not sure when it began, but she calls her siblings, “my people.”  Her lingo has become infectious in this house.  We all find ourselves using Annie’s same diction when speaking with her.  We utter statements like, “Let’s give your people a kiss goodnight.” or “We are going to pick your people up from school now.”

Annie’s people are defined to her as those that she holds dearest to her heart.  Those characters that make her laugh until her belly hurts and her eyes water.  Those bodies with consoling arms ready to hug when she is sad or hurt.  Those folks who she can spend endless hours with and never tire of their company.

This year I have followed Annie’s lead and I found my people.  I have surrounded myself with a loving, caring, inspiring, motivating, and comforting clan.  I am happier because of it.  If it is true that we are all a reflection of the company we keep, then my reflection must be magnificent!

Lesson #2 surround yourself with people that make you happy.


Art by, Lisa Congdon